How to survive with a toddler? The ultimate guide

How to surviveNo matter if you’re a stay at home mom or a working mom at least once a day you might wonder if you’re taking part in one of those survival shows or running a Boston Marathon. There are good days and bad days, so I decided to share my secrets how to stay positive, sociable, happy mom and not lose yourself in caring about your family.

First, just remember that there is no way back. You’re stuck girl. Now, just take a deep breath and always, always find time for a morning cup of coffee/tea/lemon water – whatever your morning ritual was before having kids. Breakfast, lunch and dinner are extremely important for mom’s normal body functioning and taking care of your loved ones, so no skipping or constantly eating those easy sandwiches on the go. But let’s be honest, sometimes I don’t get to my breakfast up until 12.30 in the afternoon and have pizza party Friday night, but most days I try to be good. Nobody’s perfect! I don’t cook something like homemade ravioli anymore and everything that takes to cook longer than 30 minutes is a no. I still eat healthy meals made from scratch, but they’re quick and easy now. I love the recipes from Cooking Well Healthy Kids as well as The Skinnytaste Cookbook: Light on Calories, Big on Flavor. Pinterest is my good old friend too. I think it’s a clever idea to meal plan for a week ahead and have everything ready. I print out or copy the ingredients list into Google doc or whatever app you use for shopping and voila. Just have those recipes ready and send hubby for grocery shopping.

So, here we came to my next tip- involve your partner as much as possible in helping you clean, shop and take care of the kids. I couldn’t make this year without my husband. We girls know that sometimes it doesn’t come easy and all those centuries women spent at home don’t help, but it’s 2017 now and women work as much if not more than men.

So, now that you’re all happy and relaxed after your last meal and the husband is at the grocery store I’ll share one more secret. Don’t clean or cook while baby naps. Spend this time relaxing, studying, reading books or napping. You can always cook and clean with a baby around, but reading a book near the super active toddler sounds like a fairy tale, right? New mums need to stay productive to make it through. Lists, diaries, planners are your best friends, right?

And last, but not least. Always have time for yourself. Go or do at home your manicure, wash hair, do makeup and have hobby. Don’t lose your personality in everyday tasks. If you loved diving or playing video games before having kids, don’t give up on that. Overall, kids need happy moms and if fishing makes you happy, just go for it girl.

 

Lots of love,

TheMommyzilla

Best tricycles with handle for kids in 2017

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Our baby is turning one soon and it’s exciting time for us to pick his first tricycle. I would say all tricycles have some flaws, but as always with baby gear there is no perfect product. I focused my search on looking for tricycles with handle, since our little one won’t be able to do the pedals yet.

My top 3 short list:

1. SmarTrike Glow 4 in 1 89.99$

Age: 10-36 m

Pros:

  • price
  • high quality
  • easy to assemble
  • excellent back support and foot rest
  • lots of storage and parent bag (mommy’s phone and sunglasses will be safe now)
  • weight (11.7 Pounds or 5.3 kilo), moms living in the city will approve

Cons:

  • only 2 colors available (blue and red)
  • plastic wheels (I would prefer rubber, but oh well)
  • max age is 36 month versus 60 month or 5 years in competitors

Decision: We chose it for good value for the money, being lightweight and having foot rest. I’ll write the full review later after using it.

2. 4-in-1 Stroll ‘N Trike by Radio Flyer 83,49$

Age: 9-60 m

Pros:

  • nice design
  • good quality
  • cup holder for the baby

Cons:

  • no footrest
  • only 2 colors to pick from- red and pink
  • lots of reviews on Amazon say about squeaky noise made by the wheels
  • 2 handles to push. Hate those 2 handles since my bad experience with umbrella stroller experience. I’m the mom who likes talking on the phone and pushing a baby simultaneously, so I have just one hand to do each.
  • long time to put together

Decision: since there is no footrest and squeaky nose it’s a no.

3. Little Tikes Perfect Fit 4-in-1 Trike starts from 74,99$ depending on the color

Age: 9 to 60 m

Pros:

  • my favorite design
  • price (it’s currently on sale for 74,99$ as of June 12,2017)
  • variety of colors (tile, blue, orange and pink)
  • rubber foot platform that offers a comfortable ride while keeping your child’s feet away from the pedals in Stage 1 until 18 month or whenever your little one reaches the pedals.
  • parent bar and cup holder. But on the other hand I always spill stuff with that cup holder. Do you?

Cons:

  • poor quality and cheap materials
  • hard to assemble

Decision: since my husband hates building anything this tricycle was out of question.

Never wanted to be a mom and got pregnant

Seeing two stripes on a test might be tough, especially if you didn’t plan that pregnancy. Shall I keep the baby or not? What’s my life going to be like after? Is it painful? There are millions of questions you want to know answers to. In our case we decided to keep the baby. Our son is one year old now and today I decided to write down the list of things to keep in mind before you decide what’s next:

  1. Pregnancy and delivery are not that scary. Well, maybe delivery is. On the one hand, I was in labor for around 36 hours and that was hell. On the other hand, my friends delivered their babies within 5-6 hours and had wonderful experience. After all, look at all the women around who went through the same experience, they seem fine, so will you.
  2. Sleepless nights might affect your emotional and physical health a lot. The issues you had with your partner will become 100% worse after having a baby. Lack of time, sleep and shitty food you eat might turn you in an angry witch your partner will not recognize anymore. So, it’s better to have babies in mature relationships or have somebody like parents or family who you can count on around. Sex after giving birth is different. Usually you’re simply too tired to even get to bed never mind being sexy and active. You may need antidepressants, therapist and a lot of support.
  3. Forget about normal social life. At least for the next 5-10 years. We go out and travel with a baby a lot, but there are simply places you can’t take baby to: nightclub, business meeting, trip to Somali (God knows why you need to go there on the first place). Babies have the same mood swings as adults and sometimes they just want to spend the day at home and stay in bed even at 11 months old.
  4. There will be lots of pressure on what you eat while pregnant, how you bring up your baby, what do you feed the baby and so on. Not necessarily from you family, but from social media, other moms, TV shows. Every day you’ll ask yourself a question “Am I doing it right” about a million times.
  5. Your finances will get worse. Even if you get back to work right away, expenses on babies are huge. It’s not just diapers and clothes, toys, classes, daycare, tutors and who knows what else on the way. You need to move to a better area, bigger apartment, buy bigger car. Babies are expensive. That’s the truth.

Nevertheless, babies are fun. So much fun. You get happier after having a baby. You laugh more, explore and enjoy new achievements every day. You lean and teach. Research studies show that moms with kinds, especially those who have 2 or 3 kids are more productive. Things that bothered you before like dirty floors or summer styles will bother you way less, just because you’ll have less time for that stuff.

Going back to the question about keeping a baby. You’ll aske me “Do I regret it?”. Usually I don’t, but there are days when I talk with my husband what our life will be like if we didn’t have baby now. I guess the older kids get, the more happy you are they were brought in your life at that exact moment. Overall, if the pregnancy wouldn’t happen maybe we would never get to the point of having kids anyway.

Always yours,

Momzilla